On April 11, 2014 God gave me the strength & courage to walk away from an unhealthy toxic relationship. If it was not for GOD, the support from my family, friends, church members, and therapy I’ll probably still be in the relationship. I Spoke Up, I Chose To Live! It’s not easy to get out of an unhealthy relationship. Domestic Violence is REAL, people need support! That is why I no longer see being labeled as a bad thing. I OWN MY LABLE OF SURVIVOR with PRIDE tell my story to help others either in their own journey of recovery or in knowing they aren’t alone and can get out of their abusive situation.
Domestic violence often starts with threats, name-calling, and slamming doors or breaking dishes, and it can build up to pushing, slapping, and other violent acts. If you are concerned about your relationship, ask yourself the following questions.
Does your partner:
Embarrass you with put-downs?
Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?
Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
Take your money or paycheck, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money?
Make all of the decisions?
Tell you that you're a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
Threaten to commit suicide?
Prevent you from working or going to school?
Act like the abuse is no big deal or is your fault, or even deny doing it?
Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
Intimidate you with guns, knives, or other weapons?
Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
Threaten to kill you?
If any of these things or other types of abuse are happening, you need to seek help. It's important to know that you are not alone. The way your partner acts is not your fault. Help is available.
Signs that someone you know is being abused
Do you have a friend, coworker, relative, or neighbor who you think may be in an abusive relationship?
Here are some signs to watch for:
Bruises or injuries that look like they came from choking, punching, or being thrown down. Black eyes, red or purple marks at the neck, and sprained wrists are common injuries in violent relationships.
Attempting to hide bruises with makeup or clothing
Making excuses like tripping or being accident-prone or clumsy. Often the seriousness of the injury does not match up with the explanation.
Having few close friends and being isolated from relatives and coworkers and kept from making friends
Having to ask permission to meet, talk with, or do things with other people
Having little money available; may not have credit cards or even a car
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Frequently Asked Questions
Signs of Domestic Violence
Who Is at Risk
Domestic Violence and Your Health
How It Affects Children
Why Victims Stay
How to Help
Developing a Safety Plan
Legal Protection From Abuse
Teen Relationship Abuse
Other Places To Get Help
Other warning signs:
Having low self-esteem; being extremely apologetic and meek
Referring to the partner's temper but not disclosing the extent of the abuse
Having a drug or alcohol abuse problem
Having symptoms of depression, such as sadness or hopelessness, or loss of interest in daily activities
Talking about suicide, attempting suicide, or showing other warning signs of suicide. Encourage this person to talk with a health professional.
Be supportive, and let your friend know that you are there to listen and help.
Helping a person contact local domestic violence groups is an important step. If you know someone who is being abused, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) or see the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence's website at www.ncadv.org/resources/StateCoalitionList.php to find the nearest program offering shelter and legal support. There are many programs across the country that provide options for safety, advocacy, support, and needed information and services.
Here are some other ways to help:
•Encourage and help your friend develop a plan for staying safe while in an abusive relationship.
•Help if your friend is preparing to leave a violent relationship.
•Learn about how he or she can stay safe after leaving.
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